And now for the opposing life slug from last week’s challenge of Rumination aka Thinking Too Much. There is an old quote in various forms and accredited to lots of different people that says something like ‘Vision without Action is just a Dream’. Many of us know what it feels like to get caught in that cycle of endless mental chewing where the amount of time spent thinking about something becomes quite disproportionate to the amount of time spent doing anything about it.
Life often rewards action. Or more accurately, activity. Organisations restructure when they feel they have lost their way. Managers look for new jobs. People go shopping, have a baby, throw a party, buy a house. And sometimes those things work out just fine.
But there is also an ‘itchy’ moment when we think ‘hmmm, well I did x so why isn’t it working?’. 9 times out of 10, but often easier to see looking back than forwards, it is pretty simple. It was a great answer…but to the wrong question. And that is why it matters because we can waste a lot of time and oomph on the life slug of not thinking clearly enough about the question before we jump to an answer.
Sometimes life is unfair. Sometimes people are mean. Sometimes we don’t get what we want or think we deserve. Sometimes we get tired. Sometimes we get stuck. Sometimes we get hurt. And often when those things happen, we get an invisible ‘free’ pass to feeling like a Victim.
And it’s ok if we visit for a while.
And sometimes like a short weekend break, it recharges us to move forward because being a Victim has some fantastic benefits.
But it has some significant costs too and they seem to be compound costs the longer we stay there. Read More
dear coach by the sea
What does it really feel like to be ‘coached’? I can read about it, but it is difficult to imagine. How can I decide if it is worth trying if I have no experience of it? Miss AP