Rebuilding after PTSD

A few years ago, I lost my parents and my husband within six months due to a combination of cancer and mental illness. The fallout meant that within a year pretty much all that was left of my old life was me and the cat. And then the cat died….. I found myself in a world that no longer made sense to me. Grief and depression drifted into PTSD. This is not a plea for sympathy. It is simply to say that there are some life experiences which are difficult to understand or explain until you have walked in those shoes. PTSD was a double-sided coin; it shut me down for long enough to survive and it created a lot of life mess to tidy up after I recovered. I was fortunate enough to hit my breakpoint after about 18 months and sought EMDR treatment which felt like a mixture of a life-saving miracle and something almost as strange as PTSD.

I am pretty sure I no longer have PTSD. I learned a great deal along the way though. And one of the things I learned is that, after you recover from PTSD itself, there is a process of rebuilding a post-PTSD life which is sometimes quite hard work and intensely personal. You may have some PTSD habits even though you no longer have PTSD. You are working out how to build a bridge from the old you via the PTSD you to the current you. And it is a very practical process of trial and error until you reach a kind of momentum. Like a snowball.

Coaching is an ideal process for this kind of rebuilding action. But few people – including many good coaches – will understand the life diversion that brought you here or some of the residue that you might be tussling with.

I do.

I take PTSD seriously and respect the limits of my expertise. So I will not work with you until you honestly feel you have recovered from PTSD, although I am happy to recommend routes and resources to consider as part of your own treatment path. But I can walk with you as a coach and part of your recovery support system while you rebuild a post-PTSD life.

And it is a good walk worth taking.